WHOOPS! Reading May 14 7:30pm

whoopsi-forgot-tohave-kids-cropped_blonde_v1-copy-12.jpgPlease join me at a free developmental reading of WHOOPS! I FORGOT TO HAVE KIDS this coming Tuesday May 14, 2013 at 7:30pm Tides Theatre, 533 Sutter St @Powell

San Francisco, CA

directed by Jennifer Welch

Featuring Nancy Carlin*, Randi Merzon*, Susan Shay*, Brian Herndon* & Andrew Klein (*member of Actors' Equity Association)

Call 415.399.1322 or email info@tidestheatre.org to make a reservation.

It's never too late to be what you might have been--George Eliot

It's never too late to be what you might have been--George Eliot

On the finale of Brothers and Sisters, Sally Fields quoted George Eliot at Sarah and Luke's wedding.

(Mary Anne Evans was one of the leading writers of the Victorian Era.  She used a male pen name to ensure that her works would be taken seriously.)

Not Becoming My Mother

In honor of Mother's Day, I just started Ruth Reichl's book NOT BECOMING MY MOTHER and other things she taught me along the way.  It is really resonant to me. My mother never wanted me to be anything like her.  She wanted me to have the life she never had, to be fulfilled.

I feel like my mother was like Ruth's mom, part of the women of her generation who were unlucky enough to have been born at what seems to have been the worst possible time to have been a middle-class American woman. Reichl says "there were so many labor saving devices that cooking and cleaning just didn't take that long and the women literally had nothing to do."

They were bored and unhappy.   Ruth thanks her mother on the 100th anniversary of her mom's birth for showing her by example the road she never wanted to take.  Both my mom and Ruth's mom made enormous personal sacrifices to make sure our lives did not turn out like theirs.

Thank you Ruth for writing this tribute to your mother and a whole generation of women.

The Whoops Factor Fundraiser for Japan

Japan Underwater | Kanazawa, Japan | Bonnie Levinson While I was researching and googling for this blog I found the term Whoops Factor being used to refer to the Japanese nuclear accident. It gave me the idea to do something to help the Tsunami and Earthquake victims with a fundraising event. I love Japan, so I would like to help by selling my photos from Bonnie Levinson Photography taken during my recent trip to Japan.  I will donate the proceeds to the Japan Earthquake and Tsunami Relief Funds through Global Giving.

Just one week after the earthquake hit, Global Giving disbursed $725,000 from  Global Giving's Japan Earthquake and Tsunami Relief Fund to six organizations already in Japan working on relief and long-term recovery efforts.  See how the  Donations to Global Giving are being used.

I've attached four images of my Japan Underwater series that I took last October in Kanazawa, Japan at the Twenty First Century Museum.  I feel they are an evocative portrayal of the nature of water and light. People ask me all the time how I did them. If you buy one, I will tell you.

These photographs are available in two sizes:

  • (18" x 24") $350 and (24" x 36") $450 unframed, printed on fine art archival photo paper.
  • Please email me of your interest, which photograph you would like—and its size— plus  your phone number to BLAM.  I will deliver the photos directly to you.
  • I will donate the money from the sales to Japan's Earthquake and Tsunami Relief fund.
  • (There are also a limited number of framed works available for purchase)

Japan Underwater #2| Kanazawa, Japan| Bonnie Levinson

Japan Underwater #3| Kanazawa, Japan| Bonnie Levinson

Japan Underwater| Kanawawa, Japan| Bonnie Levinson

If you would like to make a contribution directly to the Fund you can also go to MY FUNDRAISING PAGE at Global Giving .org.  Thank you for your generosity.


Martin Buber said--"All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware."

Join me on this journey. Things happen, life happens and takes you on a path that you never imagined. We are all made of our stories, our choices, our plans that change with life.

I am doing research for the book version of Whoops, taking parts of the play, Whoops I Forgot to Have Kids and combining them with others stories and perspectives. I will keep you apprised as things develop.   I want to use this blog to reach you and to serve those of us who want to share our various wisdoms.

What's your Whoops Factor?

Whatever your Whoops.  Share it! Realizing you have a Whoops is the first step in moving on and growing.

The Whoops Factor continues


When I ask people about their Whoops, they say--"I didn't forget to have kids, but....

Whoops, I forgot about me and who I am

Whoops, I forgot what I love to do

Whoops, I forgot I have a voice

Whoops, I forgot that I am creative and artistic

Whoops, I forgot I have talents

Whoops, I forgot I liked this...yum

Whoops, I forgot my dreams

Whoops, I forgot my joy and my inner child

Whoops, I forgot to remember

Whoops, I forgot where I need to be

Whoops, I forgot where I am is where I need to be

Whoops, I forgot to be mindful and to breathe

Whoops, I forgot about you

Whoops, I forgot I liked this

Whoops, I forgot to be happy

Whoops, I forgot I could write

Whoops, I forgot I could sing

Whatever your Whoops--share it.

Realizing y0u have a Whoops is the first step in moving on and growing.
Alexander Graham Bell, best known for the invention of the telephone in 1876 (one of my favorite years because it was the Centennial of our country) said
" When one door closes, another opens; but we oten look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."

The Whoops Factor, the beginning

The Whoops Factor

Everyone has the WHOOPS Factor in their life.  Things happen, life happens and takes you on a path that you never imagined.  We are all made up our stories, our choices, our plans that change with life.
If you have a Whoops Factor in your life it doesn’t mean that you are unhappy.  It just means that you got something you didn’t expect.  Speaking of EXPECT or EXPECTING–some whoops happen in front of an EPI strip turning pink.


In October 2003, I was invited to be part of a women’s retreat in Napa run by Ellie Coppola and a close friend Arlene Bernstein.  It was a month after my dear mother had passed away.  At first I was going to cancel.  I didn’t think I could handle it.  Arlene who is a psychologist, thought the retreat was a wonderful healing opportunity, to think and explore my feelings.  The women were all incredibly accomplished and inspiring.  It was a gift  to have the time to think about my mother and to reflect on our many years together as mother and daughter.  I felt the loss deeply. I had lost my mother and suddenly I realized that I would never be a mother.  My life had evolved and I had a really big Whoops.  For me it was Whoops, I Forgot to Have Kids.
That retreat inspired me to write a play about my relationship with my mother.  Whoops, I Forgot to Have Kids is a one woman show with music.  It is the story of a woman’s struggle to come to grips with not having children and yet make some sense of life.  In her journey she copes with loss, specifically the loss of her mother and the loss of her role as “mother”.  My conception for the Play was that it would be set in my mother’s closet, the closet of ”our“ history, a metaphorical closet that reveals memories through objects, stories, songs and the social context of the times. The play is about mothers and daughters and the exploration of the sometimes joyful, sometimes painful intensity of that relationship, particularly as it pertains to daughters who do not become mothers.  What does it mean to be a woman in today’s world and not have children?  Can we separate motherhood from female identity? Can a woman be a “complete woman” without having children?  How can we give birth to a creative and fulfilled life?
I’m interested in hearing about your Whoops story, your perspective on this journey and adventure that we all call LIFE.